Announcing Your Engagement

Things You Should Be Aware of Before
Announcing Your Engagement

 

Getting engaged and announcing your engagement is one of the biggest moments in your life and it should be celebrated.

It is the start of a new beginning in your life. From the moment that you have made the decision to marry you will have moments of pure joy and others that will need a little compromise.

The first people who should hear that you are engaged should be your parents and then close family members and friends.

Traditionally the bride's parents are told first, then the groom's parents, before announcing the engagement to everyone else.

Really is doesn't matter in which order you tell your parents, but they should hear it from you before they hear it from someone else. Don't be surprised if your parents ask about your wedding plans soon after announcing your engagement.

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There will be a lot of opinions regarding your wedding even before you have had a chance to think about the planning yourself.

Be tactful and keep the conversation focused on the news of your engagement, and enjoy the moment and try to put off discussing the wedding plans to another day.

If you think that your parents are not going to be happy with the news of your engagement, you may like to talk to them about the relationship that you have and your hopes for the future before announcing your marriage plans.

It should give them time to get used to the idea and possibly give you their blessing. You may find that they will never accept your partner but you have shown respect to your parents by talking to them first.

If one or both of you have children, you might like to announce your engagement to your children first, before they hear it from someone else.

Make this announcement in a place where the children feel comfortable, so that if they have any fears or anxieties they can express these concerns to you. It is important to reassure children of any age about the ways in which their lives will stay the same after the marriage, and that your love for them will not diminish.

Also if you have been married before, you should inform your former partner in person, or via the telephone and don't let your children do this for you, it will put your child in a difficult situation and can create conflict between you and your former partner.

If you are remarrying after the death of your former spouse, announcing your engagement to your former in-laws should be done by visiting them in person, or writing to them.

Don't let them hear it from someone else. If you have not met his parents, or he has not met yours, now is the time.

The next step is, if the parents have not already met; organize a time for them to be introduced to each other.

Try announcing your engagement at any family gathering where everyone can hear the good news. Or if you prefer have a wedding engagement party to announce your engagement.

Then if you wish, visit, phone, write or email any other family and friends who may not have heard the good news of your engagement.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some families still follow the tradition of announcing their engagement by placing a public notice in the "Births, Deaths and Marriages" section of the local or metropolitan newspaper. If you would like to see examples of engagement notices read this article Wedding Engagement Announcement Notices.

Once you have made your announcements you might want to send out some save the date cards as a reminder to your wedding guests of your up an coming weddding.